Talking about the “S” Word

October 11, 2016

It has been really troubling to me that I have known several people over the years that have attempted suicide or have succeeded in killing themselves.

The reasons why are because I personally think that life has so much to offer and that I grieve the loss of people I know who kill themselves.

But in the last couple of days, I have had some really good insights about people who are suicidal. One is that obviously a lot of them would not agree with me that life has a lot of positives to offer. Just because I enjoy my own life, most of the time, does not mean that others do.

Duh?! Maybe I need to get my ego out of the way and stop judging those who do not feel their lives are worth living. Yes, I would miss them if they go through with it and succeed but I also would miss them when they die from other causes.

We miss people who die because we will not see them again in this lifetime. As a psychic, who has done mediumship readings, I have had glimpses and feelings of the afterlife which convince me that it is much better than the lives we are experiencing on earth, regardless of how good someone`s life is.

I am not a devout Catholic, for example, so I do not believe that people who commit suicide go to hell. I believe we all go to a better place and even believe that people who are totally evil on earth, do not continue to be evil as spirits in the afterlife.

Sometimes people just want to stop the emotional pain of living and so they might find a pain reliever by talking to someone. This could be a crisis counsellor and this is, by and large, what the following article I wrote in 1991 is about:

Recession Magazine

April 1991

Talking about the “S” Word

by Tanya Lester

Most people at some point in their lives consider suicide and discussing it should not be taboo, according to Maureen Rice-Lampert, a crisis counsellor at Klinic Community Health Center in Winnipeg.

“Let`s talk about the ‘S’ word,” Rice-Lampert says, adding that someone who considers suicide is not crazy or abnormal. Life can be painful, she says, but he crisis line, at places like Klinic, is there to help people find alternatives to hurting themselves as a result.

Although any increase in calls to the crisis line is not directly related to the recession, Tim Wall, Klinic Crisis Program coordinator, believes community services cutbacks and fears concerning job stability, for example, do create more stressful situations.

To better cope, a person needs to eat healthy food and regularly; exercise, and get enough sleep. Some people find meditating, yoga, taking a relaxing bath, reading and journal writing to be helpful.

If those depressing ‘bottoming-out’ feelings start, Rice-Lampert suggests avoiding the tendency to “draw in”. Try not to isolate yourself. Talk about your feelings to friends, your partner or call the crisis line. Even if a person is unable to leave her or his home that person can usually make a phone call, Rice-Lampert says, and there is an anonymity in doing so.

The crisis line workers at Klinic are trained to respect callers and to take them seriously. Workers can help callers see their problems from a different perspective other than the “tunnel vision” mind set that depression seems to thrive on. Rice-Lampert says there is no formula or automatic solution but the goal is to help people empower themselves and find the resources they need.

Both Wall and Rice-Lampert say many of their calls also come from people who are worried a friend or family member may be suicidal. Clues to watch for, according to Rice-Lampert, are a change in behavious, attitude and/or dress coupled with a loss like a job, relationship or dream. Let the person know you care and alert other people who know her or him that you have noticed a change. Sometimes you might want to ask “Do you want to talk?”

You can also suggest the person call the crisis line. Be realistic about the amount of support you can promise and seek support yourself. Suicidal people can be difficult to deal with. They might not want to talk about their feelings but they can display strong feelings of anger, hopelessness or depression. On the other hand, they might have a need to talk about their wish to kill themselves and act it out.

But Rice-Lampert and Wall agree being in crisis can result in a rewarding experience. It often means overcoming the fear of changing one’s life. “Crisis can be a turning point and a real positive change,” says Rice-Lampert.

And you don’t have to be suicidal to call the crisis line…


Tanya is also a psychic who specializes in tea leaf reading, tarot, etc. and is also a reiki master and house sitter. To access her services go to her website: or email her directly at or call her cell at 250-538-0086. Or go to her pages at Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter or Google.

Tanya’s book are Confessions of a Tea Leaf Reader (buy copies from the author or amazon), Dreams and Tricksters, Friends I Never Knew and Women Rights/Writes. If you own some of these books, please consider donating them to public libraries and ask them to put them on their shelves.




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